Is Role Reversal Okay In Pursuit of Happiness?
The other day I overheard a woman talking about her recent engagement. It sounded like a typical “then he got down on one knee” story until she said that SHE was the one who asked HIM to marry her. And please note that the word “ask” is an exaggeration. She pretty much told him to marry her. She picked out the ring and e-mailed him the photograph. The woman continued by telling her friend “His response was ‘okay I get it!’… So now we’re engaged!”
Readers, I kid you not! Millions of thoughts and questions were running through my head so I had to bring this to the website. Ladies, for those of you who have gone against the traditional “he got down on one knee” story, why?
Do you believe that he won’t ever get around to asking? Do you think he is too comfortable? Speaking from a man’s perspective, marriage is a BIG step. Unlike most women, we don’t spend life dreaming of this fantasy marriage where everything is full of love and butterflies. Marriage is, for many men, scary at first thought.
In many relationships you may find that men tend to take things slow, real s l o w. We have to make sure, you know, be certain. Not that you ladies are jumping the gun…well… maybe you are. Any quality man understands limits and knows that progression is required for a successful relationship. But you can’t rush these things! Let me come to you about marriage!
When the woman has to ask a man, that means that the man didn’t have it on his mind. Things never work out when you push a guy into something.
Interesting fact: In the past, a woman was only allowed one day, the last day of February on a leap year, to ask a man to marry them. According to Yahoo answers, “It is believed this tradition was started in 5th century Ireland when St. Bridget complained to St. Patrick about women having to wait for so long for a man to propose. According to legend, St. Patrick said women could propose on this one day in February during the Leap Year.”