3 Signs To Watch Out For
Monogamy is hard. It is work. There’s nothing worse than walking around with your head in the clouds acting as if you’re immune to cheating. Believe it or not – but nobody is invincible.
By working to confront problems head on you may be preventing a catastrophic blow to your relationship.
Dr. Tammy Nelson offers 3 signs to look out for that may indicate your on the verge of cheating.
Some road signs to watch for:
1. You haven’t made love to your partner in weeks or even months. You find you avoid situations that could lead to sex. You lie to your partner and say you’re tired or you have a headache. This disinterest could be a sign that you are stressed, tired, ill or that the relationship is disconnected. It can also be a sign that one of you is out the door.
2. You are on the internet trawling to meet other people. You find yourself looking up your old boyfriend or girlfriend on Facebook and sending them a “Friend” request. You look at dating sites for married people interested in anonymous sex. You download photos of sexual partners for hire. You masturbate to fantasies of other people you know more than you do with thoughts of your partner. This can indicate a wide variety of interests and a healthy sexual appetite. It can also be a sign that you are looking for sex or a relationship outside of your marriage.
3. You are emotionally connected to someone other than your spouse in more important and intimate ways. You tell them all of your problems and confess your dissatisfaction in your marriage to this outside person. You talk to them about your sexual issues. You find that you text them and call them throughout the day. You think of telling them about your private thoughts instead of your spouse. You fantasize about them and wonder if they think of you in as well. You don’t include them in dinners or outings with your spouse but keep them to yourself. Don’t kid yourself that you can have a friendship that is closer than the one with your spouse and has the added energy of sexual attraction and still hope that eventually it won’t become sexual. Emotional affairs many times lead to affairs. You may already be halfway there.
If you’re experiencing any of these issues, talk to your significant other. Work through the issues.
I promise you’ll thank me later.