Being Alone is Not the Same as Being Lonely…Dr.O Speaks


Being alone is just not the same as being lonely. We as clinicians have to began teaching  people the difference. Many people just are not comfortable finding themselves with a few minutes of “quiet time.” This can be a great experience, if you can learn how to handle it-the silence. Many of you have just been over-stimulated most of your lives. Taking a few minutes for self is almost essential to having a healthy lifestyle.

In today’s climate, many of us are faced with the daily hustle of work, taking care of family and a juggle of many other responsibilities. Being on the go is just the “new” normal. Many of you haven’t had a vacation in probably over five years. Some of you haven’t traveled over 100 miles from your home. This can be hazardous to your health. Many trade off the fun of travel for fast foods and sitcoms at home. This can certainly lead to depression and other forms of medical illness.(obesity, hypertension, etc.)

Many of you have stopped exercising. Your water intake is low and “couch potato” is your middle name. This is when loneliness becomes your friend and not foe. When reclusive behaviors become more common than uncommon, be careful because depression is around the corner.

How to recognize “possible” signs loneliness (negative) vs. being alone ( positive)

loneliness (negative)

  • feelings of isolation (‘I don’t have nobody.”)
  • sadness
  • crying spells (For no reason)
  • carbohydrate craving (sweets, potato chips, cakes, pies, Little Debbie Snack Cakes)
  • fatigue (sleeping all day)
  • lethargy

being alone (positive)

  • refreshing
  • peaceful
  • rejuvenating
  • rewarding
  • scheduled/spontaneous
  • gratifying

Sometimes there is nothing like a long walk in the park. A short trip to the farmer’s market with a stroll through produce. This can be fun. You can also window shop. You might want to pick up a few things in your budget. These are just a few things that you can do alone.

Love yourself and be true to yourself. You are a pretty nice person, once you get to know you.

If you are having challenges are fears with being alone or by yourself, feel free to call us at 404-575-4785 to come by for an evaluation.

Don’t forget to peruse the site www.askdro.com.

 

Thanks for stopping by,

Dr.O

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