First and foremost, I would like to send my condolences. The loss of a spouse is a delicate and very difficult position to be in. This is the person that you planned on spending the rest of your life with and now they’re gone. Although it is healthy to mourn for your loved one, at some point you have to continue living again. Several tips are offered below to help you move past this devastating loss:
- Your mourning period is unique. Don’t let anyone tell you what you should be feeling. Everyone has different ways to mourn.
- Find a support system. This may include your closest friends or family. Or it may even be a complete stranger you meet online.
- Create a memory book to treasure the moments. This will give you the chance to cherish your favorite times and pictures.
- Try something you’ve never done. Take dancing classes, visit the ballet, or jet-ski along the Pacific Ocean. Do SOMETHING new.
- Find a new hobby or an interest to devote your time to. Learn to cook like Bobby Flay. Create a Twitter account and start twittering. Collect pop bottles.
- Spend time with animals. Animals have been known to offer unconditional love during difficult grief periods. Buy a new pet, babysit a friend’s, or spend time at the local Humane Society.
- Talk about your feelings in a diary, support group or online forum. Expressing your feelings is a great way to feel an escape from all of the emotions that you have been holding in.
- Get in touch with your spirituality. Whatever you may choose as your spiritual or religious influence, now is the time to lean on them.
- Work Out. Play the Wii, become a gym member, or walk in the park. Working out increases a positive self-image and lets you blow off some steam.
Losing a loved one and moving on from there isn’t an easy task, and sometimes simple steps aren’t enough to get you through tough times. You may develop feelings of anxiety, depression and anger, even if you don’t know it. Learn to take control of your mental health; go to the Dr. Owens Mental Health Prescreen Assessment and check your mental status today!