The Metro-sexual Man: Is Your Man a “Butch” or a “Barbra”?

For those of you that don’t know, a “metro-sexual” man is a man whose well-groomed, in tune with the latest styles and fashions, knows the popular trends in art, music and literature and probably has his sexuality questioned all the time but is not necessarily gay. Maybe you ignored or denied it at first, but after all that time of wanting a man, you finally got one, only now you’ve started to notice a few things, questionable things. In the back of your mind, you may be asking yourself, “does he get his feet and nails done?” “Why is he always reading my Ebony magazine or how does he know more about decorating then I do ? So how can I confirm whether my man is a metro-sexual or not Dr. O? Let me show you.

According to Madame Noire,

  • If he regularly gets manicures and pedicures and or “manscapes”.
  • If he dresses better than you and advises you and other people on what to/not wear (keep a close eye on this one).
  • If he gossips.
  • Does yoga
  • Or if he cries more often then you’d like

According to Psychology Today, a metro-sexual man is almost the complete opposite of your regular, macho “butch”, sometimes emotionally disconnected man. Those who have an “avoidance of femininity; restricted emotions, sex disconnected from intimacy; pursuits of achievement and status; self-reliance; strength and aggression; and homophobia.” PT reports that a metro-sexual man is actually more in love with himself than a man or a woman. “Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the most fashionably up-to-date and well-groomed of them all”? Metro-sexuals are a more polished type of man, their edges are smooth instead of rough. They’re confident in every aspect of their lives, including sexuality and are comfortable “debating the sartorial merits of Giorgio Armani or Tom Ford as he was speculating as to whether the Cowboys would likely make the play-offs that year “.

After reading the information above and you suspect your mate may be a full out homosexual, here are a few red flags to look for/confirm. If this is you, exit the relationship immediately.

  • He likes for you to participate in a lot of  strange and kinky sex ALL the time.  For example, he likes for you to stimulate him in unusual places. Enough said!
  • He has a lot of gay friends and usually invites them over  for dinner on Sundays.
  • He does a lot of texting and cell-phone calling before and or after intimate times of exchange between the two of you. (dinner, sex, and long conversations)
  • He takes a lot of business or church trips, out of town, with male friends
  • You don’t really arouse him. Sex tapes are usually needed for him to gain an erection. You are also not sure which party he is looking at in the pornography tapes. Most probably he is scoping out the male. Watch his reactions as the camera moves from the female to the male.

I hope this article was informative and helpful in some way. If you have something that you’d like to add or have something specific you’d like to add, leave me a comment below.

Dr. O

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