Every time I hear a story of this nature it saddens me even more than the one before. Nobody wins in situations like this, no matter how sweet you thought the revenge would be. A few months ago we shed some light on a father who murdered his three young daughters to get back at his ex-wife. Now another bitter, failed relationship has cost another child their life due to their parent(s) not being able to properly work through the break up. According to NY Daily News, this time a mother took out her frustrations and hatred for her estranged husband out onto her nine year old son when she murdered him by shooting him five times while he was sleeping.
Lisa Marie Lesyshen, 45, killed her young son, Asher, who she shared with her estranged husband Michael Kirlen, by shooting him “three times in the chest, once in the head and once in the leg”. The boy died from his injuries Wednesday morning. The NY Daily News reported that Lesyshen left her husband a note by the child’s bed that included the line “Remember you are responsible for what has happened here and you are the person that caused it”, and signed it “Lisa and Asher” . Lesychen then tried to kill herself by shooting herself too but she survived and is being charged “with first-degree murder, child abuse leading to death and domestic violence”.
It is evident that this woman was not handling the affects of her failed marriage properly. It probably didn’t help the situation that the woman and her husband who she was separated from, still lived in the same house together. I can assume that this woman was dealing with some deep depression and as I’ve informed you of many times before, it’s very common for depression to led to suicide, which she tried to commit but survived the attempt.
Unfortunately, some relationships just don’t work out and that’s okay because everything and everyone are not meant to be together. However, when going through a divorce or break up, it’s important to consider how this change will affect you, because no matter how ready you are to end it, those others feelings such as anger, loneliness, depression and doubt can all find their way next to your initial relief of the situation. Give yourself time to heal. Go to therapy, and or seek other forms of professional help if you know you’re having a harder time coping with the situation in a healthy way.
Remember…
- Promise yourself that things will get better eventually
- SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP (a psychiatrist for mental illnesses) if and when needed (If this father had used this step early on, maybe this whole thing could have been avoided).
- Self-heal (no substance abuse) by doing things that such as attending a service or place of worship or even meditating (not dwelling on the issue) at home.
Dr. O
