“You can’t say I don’t love you
Just because I cheat on you
Cuz you can’t see all I do
To keep you from knowing the things I do
Like erase my phone
And keep it out of town
I keep it strapped up when I sleep around
Well I should have known one day you’d find out
But you can’t go and leave me now”

Above are the lyrics from John Legend’s song entitled “Number One” featuring Kanye West.  The song goes into depth about the authors promiscuous behavior and how his lover can not leave in spite of  everything he has done.  I am not going to point any fingers but this sounds very familiar and close to home.  John Legend who is engaged to marry Chrissy, famous Sports Illustrated Swimsuit model, is in for a rude awakening if the story turns out to be true.  According to writers at Bossip.com, Legend was out at a Manhattan night spot and engaged in deep conversation with a table next to him.  One of the young ladies in their 20’s went to the restroom and Legend proceeded after her.  Witnesses stated they say Legend pull the young lady into the restroom.   After only several minutes passed they made a break for it out of the restroom.  Another witness states they over heard a conversation the young lady had with her girlfriend in which she stated that she had just had a make out session with Legend in the restroom.

Many people are starting to be more lenient and open when it comes to their relationships.  We always hear about Jada and Will Smith in the media about their open relationship.  Here is a question you may ask yourself: Does your spouse have the right to cheat?

The first time I was asked this question I was floored. It is something that most of us would probably initially respond no. However, the plot thickens in some relationships.  This issue really comes up a lot in relationships. Now there are so many forms of cheating emotional, sexual and now face-booking. This sounds comical but it is so true. A lot of people settle for a piece of a mate than no mate at all. The question that comes up after one has been cheating on in a relationship is , “Am I Stupid for Going Back?” There is no quick or rationale answer to this but it is worthy of  a post and discussion.

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Let Me know what your thoughts are about infidelity and have the times change?  Is cheating the new norm? Have we veered away from our good ole day traditions of monogamous relationships? Until next time, check out my new book at www.AmIinABadRelationship.com

Enough Said,

Dr. O